Secret Santa Etiquette

Created at 16:43 on Tue 24th Apr 2007

Submitted 10th May 2006 by Jess Hamel

One of the most interesting traditions in some offices is that of Secret Santa. The original idea was to allow gift-giving without causing the giver to go broke; by giving a present to one person, you symbolically give it to everyone that works there. The basic idea is that you pick another employee’s name at random, and then purchase that person a small, inexpensive gift which is then dispersed at or slightly before Christmas. Although it can be fun, there are some guidelines that should be followed.

Try to stick to a small amount; for even close workers, a few pounds is acceptable. The idea is to show that you like and respect the person; a small gift is all that is required to demonstrate this. Anything more expensive is actually almost offensive, as it demonstrates too great an affection.

If possible, try to find a gift that the person can use. If they do a lot of yard work, gloves or a trowel are definitely acceptable. Try to determine what needs they have, and buy the most appropriate gift that you can find that fits within those parameters. As the idea is to buy a small gift, this may not always be possible, but it will definitely be appreciated. It should be noted that food (especially candy) is also acceptable, as are small pieces of jewelry.

A humorous gift is another possibility. If you can be ironic when you choose the gift, so much the better. A classic is buying a teen-age boy a toy car, but there are other options. You can also apply scatological humor; a number of whoopee cushions and noise-makers are bought at this time of year for Secret Santa gifts. Do try to keep it tasteful, however.

Try at all costs to avoid gifts that are rude, intimate, or just tasteless. As the gift will be given in public, gifts that would be better given in private should be avoided. If you feel the gift must be given, then give it in private as a special, personal gift. However, gifts that require intimate knowledge or imply some relationship that doesn’t exist, or are on the limits of taste should definitely be avoided. In essence, the rule that the gift should be acceptable to the person receiving the gift should definitely be followed.

It should be noted that these are just guidelines; there are some times when they won’t apply. For example, between really good friends, the price spent on the gift may be increased. However, the guidelines should be followed in general, so as not to cause bad feelings; the idea is to have fun, not hurt people. Secret Santa can be a fun tradition, especially among those who are clever and are willing to give what is needed. And it definitely one that builds morale!